Tula 06-24 Part 1

Araw araw, oras oras, aking pinipilit

Ang kalimutan ka gaya ng iyong iginigiit

Oo, totoo, lagi kong pinipilit

Upang sakali mawala ang lahat ng sakit

Minsan, madalas gusto ko sayo ay magalit

Para sa pagkakataon na iyong ipinagkait

Para sa pagbitaw mo habang ako’y nakakapit

Para sa pangako ng pagmamahal mo na hindi ko nakamit

Sadya nga yatang ang tadhana ay kay lupit

Pinadama ang saya sa piling mo na tila ay humahagupit

Kahit ang bawat panahon na kasama ka ay parang kinukupit

Ang saya na ngayon ay natapos na at hapdi ang ipinalit

Araw araw, oras oras, lagi kong pinipilit

Ang kalimutan ka gaya ng iyong iginigiit

Upang mapalitan ng tamis ang lahat ng pait

Upang maalis ang sama ng loob na aking bitbit

Gusto ko nang sayo ay magalit

Para mapalitan na ang nararamdamang sakit

Na dulot ng aking mga hinanakit

Sa paglisan mo at maiwan ako sa aking sinapit

Gabi gabi ay nakatingala sa langit

Minamasdan ang mga bituin na para bang mukha mo ay iginuhit

Kinakausap ang buwan at tinanong kung bakit

Bakit? Bakit? Bakit?

Gaya ng iyong iginigiit

Kakalimutan kitang pilit

Kahit ang lahat ng alaala mo sa puso ko’y nakadikit

Kahit pa laging kang nakikita hanggang sa mga mata’y pumikit

Gusto kong sa iyo ay magalit

Ipadama sa’yo ang ibinigay na pasakit

Ngunit ang puso ko’y iba ang inaawit

“Mahal kita” ang katagang patuloy pa ring isinasambit

Review: Ex With Benefits

Pain. It is the unpleasant feeling caused by an injury or disease. We would often use drugs, medicines, 

pain killers particularly, just to be free from pain even just for a while. That is for physical pain. How about

for the emotional pain, which is usually caused by sadness, loss or frustration? Is there any pain reliever

that can actually suppress that emotional pain we sometimes feel? Is there any drug that can at least

alleviate the pain in our hearts which we can take every four (4) hours or round the clock or as needed?

If there’s any, I’m quite sure a lot of people would flock the drugstores to avail this medicine. Well,

whether it is physical or emotional pain, we all go through it, we would all feel it. According to the movie

Ex With Benefits, pain is what makes us human. And the best way to recover from pain, is to endure it, because then and only then, can we heal.

Endure it because... Pain demands to be felt. And so I heard that line again. But this time in another film,as it

was just quoted in the latest movie offering by Star Cinema, Ex With Benefits. Starring Derek Ramsay as the most successful and renowned Dr. Adam Castrences, and Coleen Garcia as Arkishia Aragon, a Medical Representative who happens to be on top of her field. The story is about the ex lovers, Adam and

Arki, whose paths crossed after the break up that took place ten (10) years ago.

What I liked about the film

1.  The Story. It has a good take on a modern day love story which includes sex and everything. I also liked how what was supposed to be a light sexy movie turned to have a deep background story especially on Arki's life after the break up.

2. Derek Ramsay. We've seen countless Derek Ramsay movies where he would surely strip and show off his body then do love scenes. Here, I've noticed how careful he was to Coleen but still, his hotness didn't make any less. And for his acting, he is effective but still the same Derek in his previous films. 

3. Coleen Garcia. She was really pretty and sexy. I did not expect much from her since this is just her first lead role in a movie, but, she nailed it. And I guess she was a good choice. She's fresh and seems like, has more to offer in her coming films.

4. The Characters. Adam Castrences as the best doctor who has a broken heart. It just goes to show that even the people in the health and medical field are having problems with healing their own heart. Arki Aragon as the person who would do anything to get on top and anything for the ones she loves.

5. Music. There were no slow, nostalgic, mushy love songs played as background music in the movie. New.

6. Health and Medical terms. As a health care provider, I find it amusing to hear medical terms in a sexy film such as, placebo, fungi, congenital disease, tetralogy of fallot, duty, drug names, and etc.

There were flaws, i think it was the editing problems and rushed scene but definitely, the story wasn't affected at all. In addition, I loved how attraction levels were discussed during the first part of the movie. Informative. However, what I really loved the most was how the movie taught us about pain... on how pain can make or break a person and all the struggles one would through because of pain. Cry, Get drunk, be sober, endure the pain, until such time, we get healed... eventually. Ex With Benefits, a film on love, relationship, lost love, pain and healing gets, 4 out of 5 stars from me! :)

One Sided Love Affair

                One falls in love and other catches the other. This is the typical and most ideal kind of love story for anyone.     

         

                But what if ... no was there to catch the one who was falling? What if isa lang yung na-in love? What if IKAW lang yung nagmamahal? What if..?

                One sided love affair – the kind of love relationship or situation where one has fallen in love and other isn’t. Where in one has been giving, and the other only receives. The love affair where one is in love to someone who doesn’t love them back.

                How does it feel to love someone who bacame the apple of your eyes but hasn’t even laid their eyes on you? How does it feel when after you have given all the efforts and everything that you can give just to show how much you love him or her, all you receive is nothing? Worst is, wala manlang ni-thank you. No appreciation at all. Yes, I guess it hurts. It hurts to tell someone “i love you” and then walks away from you. As they say, it is like you are hugging a cactus... it won’t hug you back, it would even hurt you and leave you wounded. It’s like you jump off onto a something hoping someone was there to catch you, but no one was there and you broke into pieces. Ouch. Painful.

                Sometimes, we tend fall for someone who is just out of our reach. Or, possibly within reach but, someone who is just not really into you. It’s hard because we can not simply choose who to fall for and ask that person to love us back. When we fall in love, we can never expect that the love we have given will be reciprocated. We can only hope for that small amount of chance that maybe, one day, they would also feel the way we feel for them... that maybe, in time, he or she will look at you at sa iyo naman umikot ang mundo niya, dahil para sa iyo, siya na ang mundo mo.

                Hurt. Pain. Sadness. That is how you would feel to be in this situation. Friends would even tell you how stupid you are, laugh at you and sila pa mababadtrip sayo. And you just wouldn’t listen ... You would still choose to be in it. As the saying goes, ”It’s better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all”. Kumbaga, at least you were able to show someone how you feel and what love is. Time will come that all the love that you have for that certain person, will be consumed and nothing will be left. All the experience will become your lesson ... And maybe, one day, someone will find you, walk into your life, pick up all the broken pieces of you and give you the love that you truly deserve...

               

What is Love?

            February. The Love Month. As they say, Love is in the air. With that, I feel like writing anything and everything about Love for this whole month … J

            Love. We all just have a lot of question about love. When and how do we know if we are already in love? Who are we going to love? Or can we even choose who to fall in love with? Where can we find love? Is love really accompanied by pain? Do we really have to make a sacrifice for love? And a ton of other questions about love. But then, probably the first question we would ask is, What is love? Hmm …

            According to Mr. Webster (Webster Dictionary), love is a feeling of strong attachment induced by that which delights or commands admiration; preeminent kindness or devotion to another; affection; tenderness. And then on Wikipedia, it says that, love can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment. It can also be a virtue representing human kindness, compassion, and affection —"the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another". It may also describe compassionate and affectionate actions towards other humans, one's self or animals. So, it seems that love is a feeling or emotion that make anyone be good person as it may push us to be kind, compassionate and be gentle to a person and/or to everyone.

What is love? A question which I believe had been asked since the ages. That probably is the reason why love has been described in the Bible in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8;

“4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

 5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 

6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 

7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.

 8 Love never fails”

            But then if we get to ask a person, what is love, we can surely hear just a lot of definition for love. One may say that love is what we give to a person who could mean so much to him/her. The other would say that love is something felt by the heart and can make us kilig. Another may answer that love is a gift and a blessing we receive for showing goodness and care to a certain person. People might say that love is a wonderful feeling that can turn our world upside down and make us do crazy things.

            What is love? One question, too many possible answers. If I were to be asked about the definition of love, I simply do not have a definite answer … I (or we) would just feel it. For me, love changes its meaning depending on the person’s state of mind… depending on his/her situation. It could be mother/brotherly love or simple affection to a friend and special someone. Love is what we feel to a particular person, we sometimes didn't notice…we are already in love.

            Maybe… I am sure each and every one of us has his or her own definition of love. It may be similar to Mr. Webster… It could be described the same and with accordance to the Bible… It may give us such pain and sacrifice in the end or along the way, but still worth to have experienced to feel what love is. Surely, Love is for everyone to feel and to be given and shared … especially this season of love. J

           

            

The Legal Wife

Many of us may be wondering why after giving all the love that one can give, some relationship still fall apart. Oftentimes, we would hear stories of falling out of love and infidelity... And we would always why...

Why one is being caught cheating his/her partner? Why he/she has fallen out of love? Why someone would settle to being the number 2 and enjoy that ample amount of attention being given to a kabit? Why the one who was left behind would still hold on and try to bring his/her partner back? Who should be blamed?

These are the questions I hope the latest ABS-CBN Teleserye, The Legal Wife, would answer. Opening this January 27, 2014, starring Jericho Rosales, Maja Salvador, JC De Vera and Angel Locsin, after Got To Believe.

Finally, the long wait is over. :)

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The Maricar Reyes - Richard Poon Wedding

The Maricar Reyes and Richard Poon Wedding Video

                 When I watched this video of Maricar and Richard, i can't help but flash a smile on my face and feel that "Kilig" .. I felt the sincerity upon hearing the exchange of their vows and amazed to know that they only had their first kiss on their wedding day .. 

                 I could still remember the time when Maricar's name was dragged into controversy and been on a scandalous news few years back .. I didn't get to see her video with that, ugh ., but I heard a lot of comments from people who were able to watch it .. People waited for her to speak up even though many negative remarks had already been said, still, Maricar chose to be quiet and kept her silence .. And it was, i think what most people admire about her ., including me ..

                 After getting into that certain kind of scandal, I don't know how one would be able to gain respect and appreciation from anyone, especially from guys .. That is why I am so happy that someone like Richard Poon still exists. Someone who has accepted her and her past., Someone who has given Maricar so much respect and dignity which might have lost before., Someone who brought her first to the Altar before anywhere else .. I just love the fact that this kind of love story is still and really happening ..

                 With this event happening in their life, I truly wish for every girl or woman to experience this type of love story .. After all, every woman deserves that certain kind of love and respect and deserves someone like Richard Poon .. 

                 To Maricar and Richard Poon, though we may not know each other, still, I wish you the best as newleyweds! :)

Just Give Me A Reason

Just Give Me A Reason Official Music Video

by Pink feat. Nate Ruess of Fun

                 For weeks now, this song has been playing in my head ... Guess, I've been suffering from LSS or Last Song Syndrome for a long time now .. Mom even noticed that I played this on repeat and asked me, what's with the song ... why i like it? Well, I don't know. Can I relate with  its lyrics? No. Not at all.

            But then again, what's the message of the song? How would one interpret it? Syempre, kanya-kanya yan. On my part, in my opinion, I think it is about a couple whose relationship is on the rocks. One sees the inconsistencies and recognizes that there is something wrong and the other is in denial. There are lines that goes:

"Tell me that you've had enough
Of our love, our love"
 

"I thought that we were fine
Your head is running wild again
My dear we still have everythin'

And it's all in your mind"

One thinks that it's already over and the other still trying to fix everything. Both have different thoughts but both still have the same feeling for each other and just wanting to have a reason for staying and save the relationship, as song title says. "Just give me a reason". Do I have a point? Am I right? 

    

                 Hmm. . This kind of situation in a relationship, does it happen? Can it happen? I guess, it does. I've heard similar story from different couples. I've seen relationships falling apart due to certain issues. Couples where in one is already unhappy and has given up and the other still trying to hold on ... Or couples who knew that their relationship is not working anymore but still can't let go ... Why? Why is it that are people who still clings, who holds on and not letting go?? Why? Surely, You'll get a lot of answers to this question from those people ... like: "We've been together for a long time. Sayang naman." and the most popular, "I still love him/her" or "Mahal ko pa siya".

                  Attachment. Love. Yes, these are some of the major explanations why one would choose to stay and keep the relationship. Having to call it quits with the relationship where one has gotten so attached and in love with, will have to wake up one day that he/she is already alone and things had come to an end .. So instead of losing everything, instead of losing that special person, one would hold on to a single reason for staying ... and even if the reason is just a simple and ample amount of LOVE that was left. Just like in the song:

"Just give me a reason
Just a little bit's enough
Just a second we're not broken just bent
And we can learn to love again"

                 Well, siguro nga ganun nga talaga pag nagmahal .... maybe that's how love works .. So if my interpretation of the song is correct and the same with most of the people, probably, a lot my relate with the song ... and no wonder why I often hear this song anytime, anywhere ... :)

Norman and Justine: A Valentine Inspiration

            Love is already in the air as we celebrate the Valentine’s Day!

            But how would one appreciate Valentine’s Day when he/she is single and/or haven’t even gotten into a relationship? Some might feel lonely, bitter and would try to forget what day it is. But for me, seeing happy couples remind me why Valentine’s Day exists.

           

            One good example of these couples would probably be one of my friends who got married just last December 12, 2012. The Paradela - Abante Wedding.

            When I got the invitation, I was kinda shocked… One of the babies in our group is finally getting married?!? Really?!?! As in?!? Wasn't really expecting she'll be the first to tie the knot, but then, it happened. Justine was just such a beautiful bride during her wedding day.

            For Norman, I may not know him that much but I can feel he is such a good person … a true gentleman. I can’t even remember Justine saying anything negative about him. So seeing them together is a lovely sight. “Swak” kumbaga. 

             And so, no matter how busy I was during that time, I made sure not to miss this special event … their wedding day.

            I love how they picked the date; it was 12-12-12. The set-up and solemnity of the ceremony was perfect. I believed, from the invitation and to the motif, everything was meticulously prepared. 

            And what’s even good in being present with this very special occasion? It is us, friends, seeing each other again after quite some time. Grabe, sa kasalan na kami nagkikita-kita … 

            It was absolutely their dream wedding.

            Commitment. I think, takes a lot of responsibility and one must be emotionally prepared to jump into it. I guess Love was just adequate to make one brave enough to accept this Commitment. And I’m glad to see this lovely pair take each other’s responsibility as a married couple. Up to this day, I believe, Justine is still on a high being the newly-wedded wife. J

            I hope this would keep everyone inspired with Love.

HAPPY HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!! :)

Single on Valentine's Day?

Now that Valentine’s Day is finally approaching, most people would feel that LOVE already is in the air! 

Couples, for sure, are now busy preparing and planning for their V-day date. Flowers, chocolates and balloons are all over the place. We would also notice that restaurants and cinemas are full of lovers on the 14^th. But what if you are SINGLE on this very special day? What can you do to enjoy this event?

Hmmm ., broken-hearted?

I think it would best to be with your friends in celebrating this affair if you are mending a broken heart. Who else can make you laugh really hard and forget such painful situation but your friends, right? Sometimes, bonding with your buddies on Valentine’s Day can even make your friendship stronger. The only thing is, sana SINGLE din silang lahat para di ka maingit. Chos! 

“Can you be my Valentine?”

If there is that one person you wanted to be with on this event, go, and ask him/her to be your Valentine date! I think this is just so easy for guys – they only need GUTS and enough MONEY. ;p But for women like me, it would really be hard to ask a guy for a date. It would require too much COURAGE and FIGHTING SPIRIT to do it! And also, we have these tradition or Filipino values instilled to us that, that men should ALWAYS do the first move. But then again, we are all entitled with our own opinion, so, kanya-kanyang paniniwala lang yan. What’s important here is, make sure that the person you wanted to be with is also single! :p

Spend it with your FAMILY.

Is Valentine’s only meant for LOVERS? I don’t think so. For me, this is the season where in we celebrate LOVE ., not only for our partner, but also for those people dear to us – including our family. If all your friends are in a relationship and you got rejected by that person in your mind, to whom would you run to? To your family, right? Show your love and have your family as your date. :)

Single.

Whether you came from a failed relationship or a painful past, it is okay to be bitter; curse all the lovers in the world and try to pretend that Valentine’s Day doesn’t exists. Guess it is part of the healing process and our defense mechanism. But let us remember our family and friends. They are the ones who would definitely make us feel better. 

In love with a particular person? Say it. They deserve to know that they are loved. If they don’t feel the same way for you, surely you’ll get hurt; but eventually, you’ll learn to accept it. At least, nasabi mo and you’ll have no regrets and what ifs. I know it is always a different case for us girls. Pero siguro kaya nga ata merong Valentine’s Day eh, for us to have an excuse in making such major, bold move. But like I’ve said, diskarte mo na yan girl, it is always up to you.

 Does it really matter if you’re single or taken on the Heart’s Day? Well, for me, this is an occasion where we celebrate the presence of LOVE and remember how great it is. This is also the moment that we acknowledge those people we really care about, may it be your special someone, friend/s or family members. Married? In a relationship? It’s Complicated? Those are just status. I believe, what’s important is, we recognize and continue to show and spread LOVE. 

Happy Happy Valentine’s Day!  Love! Love! Love! :)